I’m really excited to be participating in the 2016 Pacific Cup. It’s a sailboat race from San Francisco to Hawaii that takes place every 2 years and is on many racer’s bucket lists of races they might like to do someday. I am very fortunate to have found a skipper (Shawn Ivie) and boat (Limitless) that I really like, and also to feel like I can contribute meaningfully to the program. The owner of the boat (an Express 37) has been working overtime to get everything ready. I got to help deliver the boat from southern California to the Bay Area, which was a lot of fun. I’ve also been helping do the social media and website for the boat. You can follow our adventures here: http://e37limitless.com — we’re hoping to blog at least once a day using the satellite phone we’ll also be using to do our official check-ins. You can track our progress vs. the rest of the competition here: 2016 Pacific Cup Tracker and check out the Daily Standings here.
We are in Alaska Airlines Division C and our start is at 11:25 am on July 12 in front of the St. Francis Yacht Club. Doug Johnstone, our navigator, is estimating it will take right around 11 days to finish. The weather will play a huge part in how long it actually takes us to arrive in Kaneohe Bay. So excited for this opportunity!
For the past month I’ve been doing some serious self-examination. Some things I’ve been considering:
In the majority of my past romantic relationships for the past 20 years, seeing a recurring pattern in myself of adapting to try to be the person that I thought (for whatever reason) would be the “right” person for the other individual
Tracing this behavior back to my childhood and feeling socially unwelcome or unloved
Finding that something inside myself has always emerged that was somehow at odds with that person I was trying to be
Arguing with myself about who I really am and eventually giving in to myself
Causing much suffering to myself and others when those differences became apparent
Truly questioning in myself whether I know what is really true or not
Can I find my own true self?
In the past month I’ve been making some changes to my daily routines:
Finally visited Insight Meditation Center in Redwood City in person. I’ve subscribed to their excellent series of dharma talks podcast for years but had never committed to the 1.5 hour drive through traffic to go in person. The traffic is just another opportunity for mindfulness.
Sat for 1/2 day retreats every Wednesday for the past 3 weeks, leaving with enough time to get there early
Stayed for another 2 hours of Introduction to Mindfulness series of classes and committed to myself to attend all 5 weeks of the series and to do the homework suggestions
Participated in a regular Sunday evening sitting group at IMC with 20 & 30 somethings (“Dharma Homies” :))
Formally sat in meditation each day for 20-25 minutes, every day for the past 3 weeks
Learning what the word “sangha” means, in person
Camped in my van multiple times in Half Moon Bay, then working in a cafe there before driving back up to Oakland
Sunbathed nude on a couple of beaches, enjoying a warm sunset by myself, letting the universe breathe me in and out
Hung out with friends I haven’t seen in a long time
Made dinner plans with new friends
Processed some of my Burning Man photos and shared some nice portraits with friends and family
Getting together with two friends to hang out and have a “creative” output as part of the meeting [this blog post is tonight’s effort]
Reached out to someone I hurt very much asking if they would be open to a visit, something I’ve wanted to do for a long time. However they respond, I feel better for asking, and do truly hope that I’m not reopening wounds by doing so.
Danced with my friends late into the night
Had deep conversations with new people, practicing both my sharing and listening skills
Working to see my own gender / sexuality identity more clearly, and starting to figure out more of how I fit into a greater community of people
Clarifying my feelings about future family, and thinking about whether I have to follow normal or conventional pathways to get there
Practicing self compassion, self care, and trying to find the shape of my heart
Overall, working on facing my fears and moving forward. I’m very grateful for all of the loving supportive people in my life, and for all of the lessons I’ve been learning through facing challenges and figuring stuff out.
My apologies if this is all too much sharing, feel free to move along and have a lovely rest of your day.
After yet another brute-force attack on our servers hosting WordPress sites today I finally decided it was time to take some drastic action. There are a number of different approaches you can take, this is what I did to block literally over 75,000 attacks against wp-login.php today.
Step 2: Add this to /usr/local/apache/conf/includes/post_virtualhost_global.conf
# Whitelist countries allowed to access wp-login.php or wp-comments-post.php
SetEnvIf GEOIP_COUNTRY_CODE US AllowCountry
SetEnvIf GEOIP_COUNTRY_CODE CN AllowCountry
Deny from all
Allow from env=AllowCountry
ErrorDocument 403 "Forbidden."
(We have some clients in China who need to legitimately login to WordPress, so we included them in the whitelist). Adjust your whitelist / allowed country list appropriately.
Restart apache service httpd restart and start watching the attacks get served up “Forbidden.” messages instead of hitting WordPress and database. Server load way down, yay! Sorry rest of the world, you can’t have our wp-login.php anymore.
Hold Fast: Stories of maniac sailors, anarchist castaways, and the voyage of the S/V Pestilence… Over the course of two winters, four members of the Anarchist Yacht Clubb rescued a derelict boat from the inhospitable waters of Ft. Lauderdale, named it the S/V Pestilence, and sailed south to Haiti. Hold Fast describes what drew these friends to the ocean, and tells the story of what they discovered in the sea. It paints a picture of the S/V Pestilence in the context of all the sailing maniacs who have come before them, and ultimately attempts to suggest that the secret is always to begin.
Blue Anarchy Website http://www.blueanarchy.org/holdfast/
Director Moxie Marlinspike
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The problem of homelessness is something I see almost every day living here in the Bay Area. I think one of the worst things we can do to other human beings is to not see them as fellow human beings. Meet Mark, one of the over 8,000 homeless people living in Oakland.
The next homeless person you see, maybe try talking with them and really see them as a human being. Give them some respect, and dignity, along with that granola bar, banana or cash.
What kind of society do you want to live in, and what role do you, individually, have to play in its creation?
When I was growing up I learned the art of rock wall building from my grandmother Blanche. It’s something I’ve always enjoyed and this neat video shares a lot of information about rock walls, focusing on New England, given by a master rock wall builder.
I recently got back from a weeklong trip to Kauai that was lovely. It included spending a lot of time with my girlfriend’s cousins and aunties, eating lots of delicious food, and getting an excellent local-style experience. On one of the last days we drove to the north end of the island, to the end of the road. You can’t drive any further, but you can hike the famous Na Pali Coast trail from there.
We only had time for a short hike, and we made it to this vista point — the first point where you could view both sides of the coast. It was very windy. We were greeted by a stunning scene once we arrived. Hikers coming back down the trail were muddy, and even though the trail was wet in a lot of places, we stayed relatively clean in our short hike. If we had the time, I would have liked to have gone further, to the waterfall, to the beach, but that will have to be saved for another time.
Finding vantage points where we can see things we haven’t seen before is a good goal to have I think, both in terms of physical places, and also in the realm of how we interact with others and ourselves. It might be a real slog sometimes, and we might get muddy and scraped up, but the rewards of increased perspective and awareness is worth it to persevere and keep going.
Where are we heading, and are we taking the time to appreciate the new viewpoints that our path presents? Where the path goes isn’t maybe the whole point, but how we get there is. Joy, happiness, contentment, even in the face of challenges, is how I want to live my life. One step at a time.